Skydiving or Scary Movies… best ever for sex they say….read on…..Do you remember the feeling? Butterflies in your stomach, heart racing, breath catching in your throat and an overwhelming desire to have sex with the object of your desire – right now.
If you’re in a long-term relationship, there’s a good chance those feelings have (sadly) passed. But, if it’s any consolation, sex therapist and relationship counsellor Désirée Spierings says you’re not alone.
“That phase can’t last, otherwise you would never go to work again. You are too obsessed with that person and it has to change,” she says.
Much of the sexual chemistry that happens early in a relationship comes down to a cocktail of hormones including dopamine, norepinephrine, phenylethylamine, estrogen and testosterone. Similar hormones are at play when we talk about addiction, which explains why early in a relationship all you can think about is your partner and all you want to do is be with them to get another fix.
“With familiarity, and the more time you spend with one another, these hormones tend to decrease and you start to see [your partner] for who they really are. So you think ‘oh he has a bit of a belly’ or ‘she wears tracksuit pants all time’,” she says.
But Spierings says you don’t have to say goodbye to the idea of lusting after your partner again; and there are ways you can recreate those intense feelings of sexual attraction. click onto this now…